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Domestic Violence: A Serious and Pervasive Problem

Some of you may have read the article I wrote last year prior to the release of my book, “The Prettiest House on the Block: A Revealing Story of Domestic Partner Abuse”. (The Prettiest Home on the Block, title changed.) If not, October, which is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, is the perfect time to reintroduce it, as well as the ages old, pervasive problem of intimate partner violence (IPV), aka domestic violence (DV). The term has been adjusted to reflect abuse not only associated with domestic partners, but with intimate relationships of any kind. It’s difficult to provide exact statistics on this scourge because there are several categories: physical violence, sexual violence, stalking, and psychological aggression, with several subpopulations: married, unmarried, same sex, degree of injury, etc. that are tallied. The broadest statistic, as reported by the CDC in October 2020, says that “about 1 in 4 women and nearly 1 in 10 men have experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetime”. These figures may be even higher due to underreporting, especially among men and same sex partners.

This problem is not disappearing from reality, but it’s not generally in the foremost part of anyone’s memory banks, either, unless they are directly involved in some way. Being distasteful to any compassionate human being, it’s not a topic that is comfortably discussed, especially by victims, which is why providing constant awareness is a necessary piece to finishing this alarming puzzle. Regardless of what might be a lack of exact accounting, one thing is glaringly clear, the COVID 19 pandemic has spawned a concerning increase in the incidences of IPV on a global scale. A study conducted at Georgia State University found that that there was a six to eightfold increase in intimate partner abuse incidences across the United States since the onset of the pandemic, fueled by stress and shelter-in-place restrictions. Clearly the problem is worsening, not improving, so constant education and awareness remain crucial.

My book journals the real life of a survivor of domestic abuse, but it is more than just her story. It’s an educational voyage into the cause and effects of domestic violence. I explore the nature (genetic) and nurture (environmental) factors that contribute to our personalities, particularly in relation to abusers and victims. More specifically, I attach these factors to scenarios in my characters’ lives from childhood through their story’s conclusion. I explain the medical conditions suffered by both husband and wife, all of which were paramount to the progression and outcome of their story. I provide avenues for help and suggestions for developing an escape plan, I repeatedly proclaim support and hope for victims, and much more.

Victims, survivors, friends, family members, counselors, healthcare providers, spiritual advisors, educators, even abusers, themselves, or anyone else interested in this topic will benefit from reading this book. If any of you happen to be in a position in your relationship that threatens your emotional or physical health, please remember there is help and there is hope. You don’t need to be a statistic, because you are strong and “you got this!”


The purpose of writing this book was less about making money as it was about being a victim advocate and an agent for change. In addition to promoting sales of my book, I am available to present a Power Point program on Domestic Violence, either in person or virtually, as indicated, for any group interested in learning more.  I have done both, so regardless of where in any English-speaking country you may reside, I can help. I am providing this service free of charge at this time. Please feel free to contact me with any questions or requests.

Here is one of the 5 star reviews of my book.

5.0 out of 5 stars Profound Real Raw Informative

Reviewed in the United States on October 6, 2020

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“As a survivor of domestic violence, I can only say how much I wish this book was available sooner. It is profound and raw and real. Whether you are in a terrible situation or someone you love is .. please read this book. And if you are like many.. why doesn’t she just leave? This is for you!”

Another said it should be required reading for all high school students. “Excellent, valuable, a must read, pertinent, fascinating, highly recommended, well-written, and informative” are all adjectives used in Amazon reviews. Another person said: “I just couldn’t put this book down!” But you can see for yourself. It is available on,,, and other online merchants.

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Half-Time Follies 2020

It’s rare that I write two WordPress posts in one day, but instead of limiting the opinions I wish to express to only my own Facebook followers, I chose to share them with you all, too. Earlier I made a joke on Facebook about the Super Bowl half time show butt wiggles, butt, all joking aside (pun intended), parents, if you taped it and will watch it later with your kids, I recommend that you preview it first. Outstanding energy and talent aside, this show would have been probably been rated “R” not too long ago. The talent required to provide this entertainment was through the roof, but the more-than-suggestive body language blared was totally inappropriate by my, and I am certain, many others’, standards, for a family sports game. Before the Big Game, my die-hard Philadelphia fan husband nostalgically watched a tape of the 2018 Super Bowl as Nick Fowls led our beloved Eagles to victory with his history-making play. Justin Timberlake, fully clothed and just as sexy, crooned his way through a wonderful half-time show that would have been appropriate for anyone to watch. (I’m not sure what the rest was, honestly, so I can’t comment. I only saw him.) What the heck happened in two years? I don’t even know if there could even have been a wardrobe malfunction at this one because it looked like all the costumes were spray painted onto their bodies with the the exception of some ruffles shaking under the bosom area, not unlike those men pay money to see in sleazy clubs.

I don’t know, perhaps I am getting to be an old fuddy-duddy but I am deeply concerned about the world in which our progeny are being raised. We had to turn off a comedy the other night because there was a continuous stream of vulgarities spewing from the actors’ mouths. They were totally non-essential to the story line, which wasn’t that great to begin with. We have stopped watching several TV shows in the past year or so because they fly in the face of our core values. Where is it going to end, when every celebrity entertains naked on prime time TV and has to learn the worst swear words and 50 shades of whatever known to man in order to compete for jobs?

Our society continues to expose us and our children to inappropriate stimuli, and, gradually, we are beginning to become desensitized to their unacceptable influences and accepting them as the new norm. This is happening in our schools, big and little cinematic entertainment, written media, and radio. I’m currently writing a true story that contains a good many quoted obscenities. I had a friend read it and she laughed at me because, in the raw script, I couldn’t write the words, resorting to substitutions such as “F— you”, instead of spelling it all out. I hate that word and several others to the point I can’t even write them. For the final product, I will write them out because it will add reality and impact to my client’s story, but it’s not something I take, or write, lightly. I realize, of course, that I will never be a best-selling author without succumbing to the insatiable thirst for sex and violence our society has developed, and that’s fine with me. I refuse to compromise my own principles to meld with those of society if they are contradictory. I’ll probably go back to wholesome kids’ books again when I finish this one.

If there are others out there who feel as I do, please stand up for your beliefs. An amoral society cannot sustain itself; we must return to simpler, more disciplined times for a healthy survival. Women want to be respected in this world, not be discriminated against, and not be objectified, and yet we allow entertainers to dress like hookers, gyrate around stages, and simulate sex acts by licking towards microphones while performing, and on sledge hammers, naked, in videos. (Thank you, Shakira, Super Bowl 2020, and Miley Cyrus, “Wrecking Ball”, for those amazing displays of talent.) I’m sorry if you don’t agree with me because we all have a right to our own opinions, but folks, it has to stop somewhere. The Bible tells us to “Train a child up in the way he (she) should go, and when he (she) is old, he (she) will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6. This is an undeniable truth, but you don’t need to know the Bible for you to understand what this is charging parents with. We must set our children, and ourselves, on the right path. Please help break this cycle of insanity.