Bible, entertainment, Morality, Obscenity, Sex, Society's Downfall, Super Bowl, Women's Issues

Half-Time Follies 2020

It’s rare that I write two WordPress posts in one day, but instead of limiting the opinions I wish to express to only my own Facebook followers, I chose to share them with you all, too. Earlier I made a joke on Facebook about the Super Bowl half time show butt wiggles, butt, all joking aside (pun intended), parents, if you taped it and will watch it later with your kids, I recommend that you preview it first. Outstanding energy and talent aside, this show would have been probably been rated “R” not too long ago. The talent required to provide this entertainment was through the roof, but the more-than-suggestive body language blared was totally inappropriate by my, and I am certain, many others’, standards, for a family sports game. Before the Big Game, my die-hard Philadelphia fan husband nostalgically watched a tape of the 2018 Super Bowl as Nick Fowls led our beloved Eagles to victory with his history-making play. Justin Timberlake, fully clothed and just as sexy, crooned his way through a wonderful half-time show that would have been appropriate for anyone to watch. (I’m not sure what the rest was, honestly, so I can’t comment. I only saw him.) What the heck happened in two years? I don’t even know if there could even have been a wardrobe malfunction at this one because it looked like all the costumes were spray painted onto their bodies with the the exception of some ruffles shaking under the bosom area, not unlike those men pay money to see in sleazy clubs.

I don’t know, perhaps I am getting to be an old fuddy-duddy but I am deeply concerned about the world in which our progeny are being raised. We had to turn off a comedy the other night because there was a continuous stream of vulgarities spewing from the actors’ mouths. They were totally non-essential to the story line, which wasn’t that great to begin with. We have stopped watching several TV shows in the past year or so because they fly in the face of our core values. Where is it going to end, when every celebrity entertains naked on prime time TV and has to learn the worst swear words and 50 shades of whatever known to man in order to compete for jobs?

Our society continues to expose us and our children to inappropriate stimuli, and, gradually, we are beginning to become desensitized to their unacceptable influences and accepting them as the new norm. This is happening in our schools, big and little cinematic entertainment, written media, and radio. I’m currently writing a true story that contains a good many quoted obscenities. I had a friend read it and she laughed at me because, in the raw script, I couldn’t write the words, resorting to substitutions such as “F— you”, instead of spelling it all out. I hate that word and several others to the point I can’t even write them. For the final product, I will write them out because it will add reality and impact to my client’s story, but it’s not something I take, or write, lightly. I realize, of course, that I will never be a best-selling author without succumbing to the insatiable thirst for sex and violence our society has developed, and that’s fine with me. I refuse to compromise my own principles to meld with those of society if they are contradictory. I’ll probably go back to wholesome kids’ books again when I finish this one.

If there are others out there who feel as I do, please stand up for your beliefs. An amoral society cannot sustain itself; we must return to simpler, more disciplined times for a healthy survival. Women want to be respected in this world, not be discriminated against, and not be objectified, and yet we allow entertainers to dress like hookers, gyrate around stages, and simulate sex acts by licking towards microphones while performing, and on sledge hammers, naked, in videos. (Thank you, Shakira, Super Bowl 2020, and Miley Cyrus, “Wrecking Ball”, for those amazing displays of talent.) I’m sorry if you don’t agree with me because we all have a right to our own opinions, but folks, it has to stop somewhere. The Bible tells us to “Train a child up in the way he (she) should go, and when he (she) is old, he (she) will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6. This is an undeniable truth, but you don’t need to know the Bible for you to understand what this is charging parents with. We must set our children, and ourselves, on the right path. Please help break this cycle of insanity.

Children, gaming, Mental Health

Video Games and ADHD: Friends or Foes?

Kids love gaming, but does gaming love them? Video battles are tons of fun, but how much is too much? What parent hasn’t worried about how much screen time their kids are getting at some point? According to a 2016 study by the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), greater than 9% of American Children ages 2-17 have been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD (Attention Deficit Disorder with or without Hyperactivity). Canadian studies have found the rate to be 5.4% among children and youth. Regardless of the numbers, the fact remains that it’s a problem. ADD/ADHD is a multi-faceted, complex problem, so where do video games fit within the puzzle?

Parents may be relieved to learn that it has been shown that video games do not cause ADD/ADHD. There is, however, a new malady that has been identified by the American Academy of Pediatrics: IGD, or Internet Gaming Disorder, and children with ADD/ADHD can easily find themselves fitting into this category. It is a diagnosis that is being researched further, but If you know anyone who has an addiction, either substance or behavioral (gambling), then you probably know the signs: unhealthy pre-occupation with gaming; inability to stop; withdrawal symptoms such as sadness, anxiety, and irritability when it is taken away, loss of interest in other activities; using it to escape problems; compromising relationships; “closet” gaming; etc. Research shows that up to 8.5 % of kids in the United States aged 8-18 meet the criteria for IGD.

Even though it has been established that playing video games does not cause ADD/ADHD, according to psychiatrist Dr. Perry Renshaw of the University of Utah, heavy gamers are more likely to suffer from this or from depression. Parents sometimes wonder: if their child has this ADD/ADHD, how can he/she can sit in front of a screen and concentrate on a game so well? They can even question the diagnosis. So, why is this, and what draws these children to video gaming?

For one thing, the constant lights, sound, and action are stimulating, and the movements are so fast that they must pay attention to what they are doing in order to accomplish the goals of the game. This is where children like this are “at”. They like lots of fast-paced activity that holds their attention. Classrooms, on the other hand, are no so exciting, and their minds drift off because they are not being stimulated enough.

Sometimes children with ADD/ADHD have problems with socialization and may have low self-esteem because they are constantly getting in trouble, even though they really can’t control their impulsivity. In the game, they’re often good, and they get instant, positive feedback. They accomplish goals, which they may have difficulty doing in life. Some research even suggests that certain games, especially the shooting ones, may improve children’s spacial skills, and help to prepare them for careers in science and technology. On the other hand, the gaming verbiage with opponents can tend to be a little rough, sometimes, and this may lead to rage and worsening self-esteem.

In conclusion, even though gaming does not cause ADD/ADHD, children affected by this disorder are drawn to video games, putting them more at risk for IGD, which is unhealthy for any child. Here is a good question to ask yourself: is your child controlling the screen or is the screen controlling your child? The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests one hour of total media exposure a day for elementary age children and two hours for those in secondary schools. If your child is exceeding this, it may be time to review media rules.

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